Danna, aka k3 ([info]done_na) wrote,
@ 2008-06-19 00:09:00
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Nabobother ako.

I was about to vent on some issues affecting several parties. Then I found myself hesitating because some of those parties would take my vents personally, as attacks. And some of those people are my friends. And/or potential friends. Then I beat myself up with thoughts of,

"WTF, this is whhhyyyyyyy you started blogging in the first place!"

I've found that personal blogging is a paradox. By choosing the internet as my medium I'm granted some level of animosity. I can opt to never post pictures/videos of myself. I can use an alias. I can disguise dreams and ideals as real life--after all, you readers wouldn't know.

But by the nature of writing about myself, I've exposed my innards in a manner more grossly intimate than say, television. Designers have capitalized on this by inventing barriers like, "friends only" or "password-protected", but all that does is create a form of elitism among the readers. What's worse is that most of these barriers offer only single-level protection, which means I can't be selective on who gets to read my entries, whether its my "Best friend forevaaaahhhh!!!" or "Oh, that friend I made the other day... What was her name again?"

Multiply has offered multi-level protection for its bloggers (ex. friends, family, online buddies...) but that's only because the nature of the site is "social networking", NOT blogging per se. Meaning you will be forced to filter your entries because of the sheer amount and background of contacts, not because you're wary about your content. Note, contacts. Not readers. Also, note forced. I don't like being forced to do anything, especially when it has to do with writing.

Back to my issues. Am I allowed to blog them?




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[info]aguadora
2008-06-18 07:36 pm UTC (link)
haha, oh shit, not you too. :D i mean-- welcome. you have entered the realm of meta-blogging. :P (a.k.a. the portion of my yet-unfinished thesis that discusses the blog as a public-private space. haha.)

i feel exactly the same way about multiply. it's too social for me. (plus all my church friends are there, and it's a pain to have to filter manually all the vim-as-porn-star entries. wehe :P ) so i prefer to hide in my livejournal. however sometimes i feel that, because of the friends page, people just "read" my content by default, and i don't want all my earnest, from-the-heart stuff foisted on them, then skipped over, much like you would the less-funny comic strips in the sunday section.

if you really want a diary, try penzu. or make a diaryland/blogger account only you know about. in my experience tho, after enjoying the sanctuary of it for a while, i inevitably end up "exposing" my site. guess you can only talk to yourself so much, and the overwhelming urge to share-share-share (make human contact) seizes you. same goes for private LJ entries. like, what is the point?

seconding elitism. another thing i don't much like in multiply is you see the other dudes who have access to locked entries. it's a little too, heh, i dunno. revealing sometimes. mas gusto ko yung intrigue ng LJ locked entries, where there's still space to wonder if so-and-so has access to this too. but that is me. on the other hand, it's satisfying to see who'se viewed your page, even if they didn't comment. it's like you know they've at least snooped around and read it.

anyway, question really is not about being "allowed" to blog about stuff. nevermind what the multiply kids are doing. just do what you're comfortable with. and just be careful. always use protection. :D

another option: blog about it now, but somewhere private. then you get the satisfaction of venting. then maybe later on, you can just change the status of the post? pag medyo things are cooler. hehe anyway i think this is too long a comment already. hope you reconcile these two aspects of blogging/the paradox. luck. :P

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[info]done_na
2008-06-20 12:02 pm UTC (link)
first of all, i insist that i get to read that thesis once you're finished with it. i'll even settle for unfinished.

haiiiii. i think i dealt with THE issues the same way i deal with most issues: bury myself in work and all the shiznit. hahahaha. now i can't even recall the exact feelings i had when i wanted to vent. yay?

comic strips analogy = WINNAH!

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[info]princerob
2008-06-19 03:46 am UTC (link)
tough one. for one, this IS your space. and for the virtue of free speech and freedom of expression, you have every right to do so.

then comes the hard part. what if your blog does affect a group of people? i remember blogging about this person X. turns out, it kinda affected (according to X) the org. lol so for the sake of the org, i chose to delete it.

but then again. i learned that i wasn't intentionally hurting the org. i was actually writing about the truth. and i realize you really can't please everyone. and from then on, i've blogged truthfully yet responsibly. compromise. i hope i made sense. =)

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truthfully yet responsibly
[info]aguadora
2008-06-20 07:58 am UTC (link)
what he said. only he said it cooler and more concise. hehe. :D

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Re: truthfully yet responsibly
[info]done_na
2008-06-20 12:13 pm UTC (link)
multiple choice! vims is:
a) addicted to commenting
b) wanting to expand her social network by going through other people's comments
c) incredibly bored
d) trying to divert her (i assume more important) thoughts through comment-reading
e) [insert creative excuse]
f) [insert lame excuse]
g) some of the above
h) all of the above
i) none of the above

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[info]aguadora
2008-06-20 12:37 pm UTC (link)
oh, fine, i shall take my commenting-ness some other place then. Hmpf. *sulk*

but.. but... *sniff* what with the sand and the camels and the long, lonely desert nights... commenting is my only solace. ;_;

all of the above, and then some. haha. sorry then. will reign myself in. :P

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[info]done_na
2008-06-20 02:00 pm UTC (link)
nooooooooooooooooooooooooo!!!!!!!! *lassos vims back* i <3<3<3 your comments!!! its just, you know, inevitable i'd make fun of it eventually! but i make fun out of anything, so it isn't you, its me [cue sappy music].

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[info]done_na
2008-06-20 12:08 pm UTC (link)
thanks rob :) i'm bitter on the issues still, but after a day or two of head-cooling (rather, burying myself in acads), my supposed vents are coming more and more into light as whining.

if the concerned parties confronted me about said issues, the feelings would prolly return and then i think it'll be safe reasonable to go off. otherwise, i'll let sleeping dogs lie.

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[info]neko_hime_lj
2008-06-19 04:48 am UTC (link)
Yep, your blog, write about whatever you want. You can bore us to death about your latest hangnail or keep us on tenterhooks about the latest intriga. Heehee.

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[info]done_na
2008-06-20 12:19 pm UTC (link)
...but i need to be able to go back to school without being cold-shouldered! hahahaha.

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Just wanted to say
(Anonymous)
2008-08-10 12:27 am UTC (link)
It's amazing

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thanks much
(Anonymous)
2008-09-25 06:30 am UTC (link)
Great news!, bro

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thank you
(Anonymous)
2008-09-28 07:34 pm UTC (link)
favorited this one, man

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thanks much
(Anonymous)
2008-10-07 06:04 am UTC (link)
thank you, bro

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